The Autobiography of JoreJj Z. Elprehzleinn
Family

Family is one of those vitally important things that we seem to all be involved with and yet so few of us are clear about what it is and what we stand for and how to live it.

For me there are four criteria that form the foundation of my personal family values.

1. Family members are involved together with providing for and protecting each others physical safety and security including each others health.

2. The individual participants in the family share a set of values, principles, ideals, goals and dreams which must include the high value of being loving and being peaceful and harmonious. Even if the shared values are to acknowledge and support each other to hold each their own distinctive and different values goals and dreams that would still be a common value and have principles to guide that to be most loving and peaceful and harmonious and for each family member to be fully supported and fully supportive of each others unfoldment in accordance their goals and dreams and their principles, ideals, and values.

3. There is a clearly defined boundary. There is freedom and choice to step in and out of this boundary. What this means is that the family has a definition of what are the criteria for being a family member and it is clear to everyone what those criteria are and how to evaluate that as people leave or enter the family.

4. Whatever comes up, whatever happens, we together in love get to the bottom of it. We find our way like that together.

I was born into a Christian ministers family. Lutheran Church Missouri Synod. When I look back to determine why it is that I chose to leave that family and to determine whether or not that family ever adhered to my personal family values I would say that it did. However that was not of my conscious choice that family. Soul choice certainly. Conscious choice not. Nor the values and principles of that family and then it all changed anyways.

What happened for me personally in relationship to that family is that as I made the transition from being in that family to being out of that family I came to realize that all of the people with no exceptions that I was relating to as family no longer were together on any of those 4 principles. The fourth I believe was never even there. The first three, yes.

It has been a long process involving every kind of thought and feeling and life experience to let go of the birth family and find my way to being clear and released of it and the consequences that being born into that family has had on my love life and formation of my own family values.

I appreciate that it is my future family, the one that I do not yet have, the one that I consciously chose to receive it's light from my most brilliant future to support me in accepting and aligning to the reality that as much I have wanted to in certain ways hold on to or save or re-create or bring to life again the family I once had that since I was about 15 years old that family was no more.

The emotional impact of losing my family was challenging to handle for among other reasons the members in that group seem to me to have chosen to form ideas that they are still a family even though it seems to me they are not, nor can I determine in talking to any of those people what values do they have that support their sense they are a family.

Another challenge for me was that recognizing that there is no family leaves me in the empty space without one until I find people that share the same values that I do or that merge values together that we can share as family.

I see how as I write this entry in my autobiography that it was not possible to stay in the idea that my birth family is my family AND be the man I need to be the person I need to be to hold the 4 personal foundational values of what is a family to me that I have written above briefly.

Emotionally holding the idea that there is a family when in reality there is not was leaving me in frozen state emotionally and unable to feel and respond to life in a fully alive capacity.

I do not mean to say in any way that is what I think other families could or should adhere to. Only that for me who currently does not have a family, and who wants to form a family those are what it is FOR ME.

As soon as could I stopped going to Church. I never stopped believing in and having a relationship with Jesus Christ, or the Christ Consciousness, or Sananda, or whatever names people give to that being and his female counterpart.

I did never really feel good about the church though I always respect the size and strength and organization of such a large structure as the Lutheran Church and the Catholic Church from which it came out of.

I respect the impact those social organisms have had and do have on our world and the people in it. And on other worlds and their relationship to our human world.

I have deeply looked into through direct experience many other groups and organizations as well such as yoga groups and various communities formed around them. And other groups as well.

I have come to understand and appreciate that family and being a member of a social group are often confused and this is something that I care about very much. To clear up this confusion.

Many groups and organizations whether it is the company as person works for, a large corporation, or a social group of any kind formal or informal the need to belong and be part of something, the need to feel and be physically safe and secure are often weak areas for many people that leave them vulnerable to various forces that arise in groups and organizations often as an expression of their leaders and also as an attribute of the energy and complexity of the group, organization or social structure by it's very nature.

What I am saying is simply that family is not any of those other kinds of social groups. To me family is a thing unto itself and the only family I currently have is my unseen friends and due to my personal current spiritual relationship with them I still find it challenging to accept them as full family members since they are not physical.

At the same time I see and feel and experience that my relationship with them has provided for my physical safety and security and met the other four criteria I have for defining my family.

It is partly because of the extraordinary life and fun I have living with that family of unseen friends that I am very eager to be with the human physical life partner(s) that I know are in my family in the future, the near future I certainly hope so. I desire, imagine, and expect it is so.

With Love and Peace and Forever and Fun. So let it be!